M & A Update

So due to the pregnancy updates I have kind of slacked on other updates...A & M...my heart still breaks for them.

Wednesday there was a meeting I had to miss. The DHS worker explained it was a family meeting. I thought something small. I had class so I couldnt miss, so I sent James with M.

Turns out it wasnt small. It was James, M, M's Mom (Aunt K), and NINE other peope including M's Probation officer, the procecutting attorney, and several CPS/DHS workers. 13 people. So much for me thinking small! Lol

During the meeting it was mostly aout plan of action. Counseling for M, A, and Aunt K. The topic of why we dont want M visiting with Aunt K came up. James explained why and I hear K started flopping like a fish, getting angry as a bull and insisting she didnt do drugs. The worker said to her there would be a quick solution...random drug tests with spice being included this time (James brought up M said she has been using spice instead of pot). She told them there would have to be a court order to drug test her. At this point M spoke up and said, "Mom, I had to step up...why don't you!"

Another time M said to his mom that if she wanted anything to do with his dad (N) he wanted NOTHING to do with her. She preceeded to lie and say she has been in contact with M quite a bit recently. WRONG we have had his phone taken away for over the past month. There are no missed calls, no voicemails, no text messages, and M said he has called from school ONCE (Not the three times K claimed).

James said he was proud of M for standing up for himself.

Then today, the finalization of terminating N's parental rights. K brought A!! She didnt need to see N in shackles, or listen to the acusations or them telling K she will also lose parent rights soon if she doesnt follow their rules.

Both sides didnt want A in there, they even whispered and approached the judge. The Judge said if she wanted to be there she could. So I aked A if she wanted to sit and listen or go in the hall.

We went into the hall. We played games on my phone, and talked about what was going on in the courtroom.

I explained what was going on. And told her I bet it was nice to see her dad but not in that way. She said yes. (I dont get it, but she honestly still loves him. One day she might get angry, but that isnt where she is right now) And I also said, I bet you are confused on how you are supposed to feel. She said yes, it is confusing.

She laid her head on my upper arm and I wrapped my arm around her. I am so sad for what her and M had to go through. SO SAD. And so mad at N, but I also feel bad for him. For his past as a child, for the fact he wasnt protected, that no one helped him get help. And I am pissed at Aunt K. For wanting to stay with him instead of helping her kids through the emotions. For being a shitty mom.

Anyways, after they got out of the court room (I thought it would have been longer so I had went out and got my diet rootbeer for A along with my teddy grams) K had attitude and asked about some paper. When the worker said she didnt have it K got pissed and stormed off.

So I asked James later what was going on. The judge had pulled K up after N was brought out and told her if she didnt obey DHS's rules and get her act together the next termination of parental rights would be for her. Then the meeting with the DHS workers came about. They also were straight forward with Kathy and told her what she needed to do and that if she didnt obey A would be taken out of her care.

And can I say PRAISE GOD for that? Today A smelled, her hair was greasy, I am 99% she still has lice (and my jacket will be tossed in laundry as soon as I get home). And she hadnt ate breakfast. Then at the meeting Wednesday they brought up she has missed school 5 times since December for stomach ache. Kathy refuses to admit it coulld be from what is going on. She kept digging herself a deeper hole. Which sucks for her but will be a life saver for A.

They tried saying taking A away from K would be devestating to A. But A has already asked my mom if she could live with her, and if she lived with her could she do X,Y,Z. She is mentally preparing for it. It would be a much more stable healthy home for her. Mom isnt perfect but she is loving and she makes sure your basic needs are met.

*sigh*

So soon I hope A will be living with my Mom. We will have A for atleast one full weekend once a month. And massive counseling starts soon.

Isn't the whole situation disgusting?

I really hope CPS/DHS stick to THEIR guns and follow through.

Soon James and I may need counseling because all of the stress!