Falling Down and Getting Back Up

When we are little, the reactions of others is what impacts our actions when choosing to get back up. Scared face? Tears are likely to ensue. Congratulations for being tough, even if there is a boo boo. The child is more likely to stand up without tears, and go on without much more than a hiccup.

But I wonder, is this the same even when we are older? I know as we get older we become more indecent. Less dependent on others opinions. Yet, encouragement goes a long way. And so does negativity. And just as with children, regardless of the reaction of others and the child, often times there will be scars.

And with these scars there is a story. Is it there because the child refused to let it heal properly? Did the parent not doctor it up with antibiotic ointment and bandaids? Or was the boo boo simply too big to cover up with a band aid, yet still this was the choice of action that was taken.

Or on the flip side, are their few scars due to being over protected. Too many doctor bills due to unnecessary trips to the ER. Does the parent have anxiety? Worry too much over things out of his or her hands?

There has to be a balance, but how many parents hit it right on the nose 100% of the time. I would bet near 0%.

I leave myself wondering this, and how it is affected by infertility, as an adult. Are we too lax if we decide to continue trying with minimal medical intervention? Will there be too many scars from miscarriages and other losses? Will the scars be too ugly because the need for intervention was necessary but ignored? Better yet, what if the bills we have paid, and those we will pay are because we are being too proactive. That if we would try more natural (cheaper too!) remedies we could have the same results.

So here I am questioning again. Do we try more herbal forms before clomid? Such as soy, which is named by many the natural clomid. Or do we just move forward. Or, do we just wait on God?

I don't have the answer. I don't know what we should do.